What Makes FemDommes Successful? by Empress Mika

Empress Mika

Interview With A Submissive Male On Good Dommes

For this article, I decided to do something different. Instead of sharing my experiences and advises within FemDom, I figured it’d be equally exciting to share the perspective of FemDom from one of my slaves. So, I went ahead and did a short interview with him asking what I thought to be some key questions.

Of course, remember that this is just one submissive male’s perspective. There are all kinds of submissive males out there just like there are all kinds of Dommes and FemDom styles. Still, as a starting point, this interview can perhaps be very helpful into thinking and developing yourself as a Dominant Woman within the incredible online industry of FemDom.

Enjoy! 🙂

 

What is does being submissive mean to you? Does it play a large role in your life?

For me being submissive is an enjoyable sexual fetish and a source of exciting fantasies. So it is a very pleasurable place to go as an escape and a way to relax. In terms of my life as a whole in a way it is no different to any other form of relaxation – watching a film or reading a book – and it isn’t at odds with my values as a whole, I always want to treat people respectfully and politely and do the right thing, so it is one part of who I am, and it doesn’t conflict with my identity.

What is important to me – and which is more than my role as a submissive – is my relationship with my owner Empress Mika. I admire Her a huge amount and She is a very special person in my life. I feel that being a submissive allowed me to know Her, but now that I do I feel it is more than just acting a role, it is genuine devotion and love for someone I value a great deal.

What type of Domme do you feel is most successful?

Well what I like and what I think is likely to be most successful may be two different things. I think to be a domme you have to have something special about you that makes you in some way a “natural” domme. You just have to find it and accentuate it for that role – and enjoy it too.

I don’t know that there is one type of domme that is most successful. Different people like different things, try to find something you like doing and you can get customers to pay for. There may be an element of luck, but if you find something is working – and you like doing it – then do more of that.

Probably the most successful “type” is the hard working one! Put in the hours, invest in the right equipment and outfits, learn about the different types of fetish, read up on what others have said – read Domme Source!!

Also I think create your character. Being a domme should be a work of art – think of some sort of backstory to your character, make yourself larger than life, think of how the best musicians and celebrities project themselves. Be unique. Create your own look, make people remember you. Don’t be afraid of being different.

 

Is the successful Domme you just described the type of Domme you actually serve? Why or why not?

Well Empress Mika is definitely hard working and has a strong personality. I would say She has found it easy to project Her inner bitch into Her domme character, so probably yes, although personally I think she could have created more of a character and backstory as an Empress.

I like to think of Her as having come from a distant planet where She ruled for three million years before landing here to Rule the Earth. I suspect She thinks that’s nonsense and no one would be interested in that, they just want JOI! (She’s probably right).

 

Is it always about how a Domme looks? The fetishes She does? Her personality? What makes you want to interact with and serve?

Well they have to look good don’t they? Although personally my preference for a domme is for them to be small and blonde – a sort of domme Piper Perri if she ever did that – but my preference for in women in general is for someone like Son Youn Ju or Park Soo Yeon, and Empress Mika I think looks amazing and she’s half-Korean so that was what made me notice Her in the first place.

What then got me to contact Her was Her attitude and ability to be really dominant, so that was important too. I wasn’t really so fussed about fetishes as I don’t really have a strong preference for any particular fetish, I guess with some people that would be different, but just being dominant and beautiful was good enough for me.

However after that it is personality and I think it can be a fine line between being dominant and being an annoying bitch so remember that at the end of the day this is about giving pleasure to someone. Maybe some would-be dommes think you can get paid for being a complete asshole to subs and I mean okay maybe with some subs it can mean that too, but I think be realistic, find out what someone actually wants.

 

What do you want newer Dommes coming into this industry to know?

Make a sub feel special. Do that and they will stay. Thank them when they buy you things. If they spend money on you don’t take them for granted, ask them how they are, be nice to them as well as being mean too. I think a good domme has to be nice sometimes to encourage good behavior! Make a sub work for it by all means, but reward them when they treat you. It is simple psychology – reward a sub when they do what you want! But above all make them feel special.

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Empress Mika is a successful online female dominatrix that indulges in FemDom fetishes both in clips as well as live on cam. She owns the ultimate FemDom resource website for both Dommes and subs: DommeSource.com. Empress Mika as well as DommeSource are proud to partner and collaborate with Webcam Startup.

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